testng_failed.xml does not get refreshed before running and run older failed testcases

Actually question related to testng-failed.xml has already been asked many times but my problem is little different. I want to run all the failed test cases together so what i did is in my pom I passed testng-failed.xml.

But the problem I am facing is first my testng.xml runs then testng-failed.xml and then it testng-failed.xml gets overridden. Due to this , suppose if i give a second time fresh run to my testcases, testng.xml runs, then my testng-failed.xml has previously failed test cases so it runs the previously failed cases and then updates testng-failed.xml with this time failed cases.

I dont knoe which listener to add to handle this issue that whenever i run first testng.xml should run , then it should override testng-failed.xml and then testng-failed.xml should run. I am using Maven, selenium, testng.

I just eneterd testng-failed.xml in my pom as shown below. Please let me know which listner to use

<suiteXmlFiles>
        <suiteXmlFile>src/test/resources/testng/testng.xml</suiteXmlFile>
        <suiteXmlFile>test-output/archive/ApiGateWayReport/testng-failed.xml</suiteXmlFile> 
</suiteXmlFiles>